There is nothing wrong with masturbation.
It doesn't make you not asexual to enjoy masturbating, it doesn't make you wrong, amoral, pathetic, or any other bs reason people give for not masturbating. I am a firm believer that masturbating is a healthy thing to do and at the same time you don't have to. If you feel no need to masturbate because you don't feel like it, or because you are satisfied with your current level of sexual activity or any number of other reasons that is just fine. HOWEVER - if you don't masturbate because you don't get off, or because it is too much work, or, or, or. I reccomend that you try again. Use toys, watch porn, read a book (and it doesn't even have to be an erotica), cuddle with a partner, whatever you need to do to make it engaging for you. There are so many ways to masturbate that there is no reason not to find one that you like.
I suggest that people start off by learning about their anatomy, there are so many good books out their on anatomy that are awesome (for a really detailed look at anatomy check out This) I love The Guide to Getting it On by Paul Joannides and the peoples over at goofy foot press. During and after you read into your sexual anatomy lay down somewhere comfortable, get a pillow to prop you up a bit and a decent side mirror that you can still move around to see between your legs.
Explore. Touch yourself, move things around, poke at things, taste the fluids that come out of you. If you have an innie get yourself a speculum
and look inside, find your cervix. Actually look, touch and pay attention to what feels good, what feels meh and what you don't like. Spend a decent amount of time doing this too - you need to be intimately familiar with your body. Name the parts and poke them, stroke them, pinch them, rub on them. You might get distracted and find yourself starting to get off which is just fine. Get down with yourself. Then go back to learning your body.
Now that you've learned about what is between your legs learn the rest of your body. Touch your legs, your chest your neck. Pull on your ears, pinch your nipples. Figure out what else you like because sex isn't just between your legs. You can get off from other things. There are plenty of people who don't involve their genitals in masturbation. I have a friend who has taught herself to get off by playing with her nipples. Another who runs marathons because they can orgasm about once every mile while they run. Figure out where you like firm touch and soft touch. Where you like the feeling of fur, or silk, or leather, or anything else on your body.
If you want more reading into getting off The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex is awesome for more than just masturbation but a lot of the techniques and ideas can be applied to yourself too.
Not sure about using your fingers? Try a toy. There are so many that you can use, if you aren't sure about what to get go into a local shop and ask questions. If you aren't comfortable with that go online to places like The Smitten Kitten or Babeland. If you aren't comfortable with that there are some undercover toys you can get like the Wahl Massager which I have and love. Or any one of hundreds of other vibrating 'massagers.' I have even wandered through the dollar store looking for things I can pervert - you would be amazed and what they have that can be used for personal pleasure and no one needs to know.
There is nothing wrong with not using toys either. Fingers and imagination are awesome too.
I am of the opinion that mental masturbation is a great, fulfilling thing too. Living in my parents house at the moment masturbating can be... awkward. You know what works like a charm - writing erotica. It doesn't matter if you feel like you're not a talented writer or if you write for a living. Sit down and write out your fantasies, or close your eyes and think about what would be hot to you. It doesn't matter if you don't want it to happen in real life or not. It's a fantasy. That's the beautiful thing about them. You can go all out.
I am asexual and, while I am not against having intercourse, I am also not someone that goes out and jumps my partners. Heck, I am in a very happy platonic relationship with my girlfriend. That being said I adore fantasizing about sex. It doesn't get me off but I love thinking about it in every way possible. It's my favorite form of mental masturbation. I come up with every type of situation I can thing of and even ponder what the physical sensations would be.
In this way you can be sexually active with yourself even if physical intercourse isn't your thing, even if masturbation isn't your thing, even if you've broken your toy and are saving up to get a new one.
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