What the hell is sex?

What is sex?

It's complicated. 

There is penis in vagina (piv) which is that stereotypical high school sex ed answer but really? No, it's way more. 

We have a variety of genitalia, people and experiences that are involved in sex, especially with the advent of the Internet for sexual expression. Sex is such a personal thing we need to look at what we think is sex and what that means for us, that being said what is sex for you isn't neccisarily sex for another person. Unless you're involved with the person what they think of as sex - so long it's between consenting adults - isn't your business to patrol. If jack thinks oral is sex and you think jack penetrating you is sex unless you're giving jack oral dont police them. 

For some asexual people the act of cuddling is more sexual or more intimate than piv is. That is okay. From mouths to hands to strap ons the experiences of coming together with other people can be sex and is important. Hands and toys and imaginations with yourself can be sex as well and is just as important. None of these expressions are better or have more value than another.

If you have other people you're having sex with one of the biggest things to make sure of is that you are talking to them, about what you want, what you expect, what you like and don't like, and all of these things from their point of view. Sex isn't just about genitalia it's about everything surrounding sexual expression - asexual people have sexual expressions as well be it choosing not to engage in sexual intimacy, being uncomfortable with certain forms of sexual expression, being sluts and more. 

If you have questions about genitalia, about alternate non piv forms of sexual expression, about sexual expression for one, ask in the comments and ill do my best to look more in depth on the ideas.

A note of a personal nature - I am currently going through some medication issues and my ability to parse sentences clearly is somewhat compromised as is my ability to focus, especially on the bright iPad screen i tend to write on, forgive this being short and not entirely what I was hoping for with regards to the topic. When I am feeling better I plan on doing a what is sex revised where I can go more in depth on the topic and specifics but for right now this is th best I am up for.